that Bill and I are going through to become foster/adopt parents.
The day after our class is Take Me Back Tuesday
and I get all wrapped up in finding photos for that!
I had quickly touched on the subject way back here.
Why are we doing this?
Well, as I explained before,
we can't physically have anymore children.
And while God has blessed us with three
awesome kids, we feel we have more love to give
to children. Other children.
So we attended an orientation meeting. Much to my surprise,
a friend of mine was in the same meeting and we both kind of looked
at each other - saying out loud - "What are YOU doing here??"
She has an awesome set of beautiful boys rounding out her
family, and I assumed her family dynamic was quite complete.
I can only assume she thought the same of Bill and I.
So there we were standing, waiting, wondering about
how we were going to do this.
She is going to fostering route,
while Bill and I inevitably want to adopt in the end.
So we have officially completed 6 hours of the 24 hours
of required training.
We attend 3 hour meetings once a week for 8 weeks.
On top of that - background checks, fingerprinting, mounds and
mounds of paperwork and of course, home studies.
So week by week we have noticed the class sizes dwindling.
The orientation class was overflowing.
Our assigned Monday night class - every seat filled.
This week. Not so much.
The reason is a good one.
These classes do not in any way sugar coat what a potential
foster or foster/adopt parent may encounter with any or all of these
children. I totally admit, that when we heard
we had to attend these meetings, I was thinking,
holy hell, I've got three already, what more do I need to learn??
Well, all of our discussions and the video's we watch,
they are raw, real, and very frank.
As it should be.
There are brutally honest accounts of physical,
emotional and sexual abuse that these kids may have endured.
Scenarios are constantly being created, to get the
prospective parents thinking how they might handle things.
Everything that is said in those classes,
make you stop
Last nights class left quite an impact on me. Our instructor said
something quite good. If you are going through this process
to have another child that can love you -
you need to stop right now. Because in many cases,
that child may not have the capacity to love you.
You have to do this so that YOU can be the one to give love,
and provide the opportunity for a child to have a better life.
A step in the right direction for their future.
And when Bill and I were driving home, and I ask him the usual
question - "OK, so how do you feel now??" - just to make sure
we are both still on the same page with all of this,
we both know EXACTLY why we are doing this.
And we are very excited.